People: have you tried writing it down?
Me: you know, the thing with writing things down is that you have to remember to actually write it.
People: ...
Me: you get my predicament now?
People: have you tried writing it down?
Me: yes of course, I wrote it on a post-it note
Them: great so what does it say?
Me: what do you mean?
Them:…….?
Me: oh god no I have no idea where that post-it note is now, don’t be silly.
Do you ever get to the end of a year of trying to work out why your adhd has suddenly gotten so bad again only to realise you actually just developed depression and it also messes with concentration and memory?
Anonymous asked:
hi, i recently started therapy (which is great!) but the problem i’m having is that my doctor doesn’t seem to even want to entertain the idea that i might have adhd. i’m very sure i have it... every post about it is just like, wow that’s me, but i guess i’m just not very good at explaining myself because my doctor seems stuck on the anxiety and depression only and seems to brush off everything else. how do i get her to listen to me? or explain myself better? because if anything, my anxiety/depression seems to stem from the fact that adhd makes my life difficult, but she’s not understanding me.
Hi! Yay therapy!!!!
Firstly, I doubt your bad at explaining yourself. If she is dismissing you it’s not your fault.
If you would like to be tested and she isnt bringing it up there is no shame in being the person to bring it up - like “before we talk about anything today I would like to talk to you about getting tested for ADHD.”
It is possible your therapist doesn’t have expertise in this area and may need to offer another contact for you to go to, or that she doesnt realise that this is important to you, so it’s fine to be clear.
If she brushes you off feel free to say that you appreciate the need to work on your anxiety and depression, and you will continue doing that, but that you would still like to talk about this and it’s important to you. If there are more pressing matters, agree to talk about it next session (and do talk about it next session).
If she still brushes you off, seek a second opinion. It’s not worth your time or money to “convince” her to listen to you.
x
Anonymous asked:
Re: moving to the couch helps you sleep easier - this is a thing they advise doing if you have insomnia! Basically, what can happen is that after spending so many nights awake in bed constantly doing stuff other than sleeping (stress thinking, being on your phone etc) your brain starts to stop associating going to bed with sleeping (ie it becomes "the place where you stress think " or "the place where you sit on your phone for hours".)
So the logic is that by moving to a new place to sleep, your brain is able to go "oh we have moved from the thinking place and now its sleep time". Another thing they advise in a similar vein is to just not stay in bed if you feel you can't fall asleep. Instead, get up, read a book or do something chill (drawing, crosswords, ideally no screens, like you said) then try again in an hour or so.
Obviously the usual disclaimers - this doesnt work for everyone and should be used in conjunction with other stuff - but I have struggled a lot with sleeping well and knowing this really changed how I think about managing my sleep so I hope it can be useful to others.
Wonderful addition to the earlier sleep post by Anon here.
Anonymous asked:
not necessarily aimed at you personally but I figure you and others following might know things: I am waiting for an appointment to talk about finally getting ADHD meds and I am dying to know two things: will it stop or at least HELP these sugar cravings for the dopamine machine and also is it true I can't have fruit juice anymore
Anonymous asked:
PLLLEAASEEE give me advice on how to sleep better, to slow my mind down. I've been getting shit sleep. My body turns off, sure but it's such incredible light sleep, it feels like I've hardly slept at all and my mind keeps staying in a loop, like having the spins when you're drunk all night🤦♂️
Thought loops like what you’re describing are heavily associated with stress. Listening to your emotions, exercising, and finding ways to distress are really important to good sleep.
Anonymous asked:
Um so i follow a few adhd accounts so idk if ur even the one who posted this but there was this one post that said something like
On good days tasks feel like
• make coffee
On moderate days they feel like
• get cup
• add coffee to cup
• add water to cup
On bad days they feel like
•walk to kitchen
• open cupboard
• take cup out of cupboard
•boil water
• get cofffee
And like a bunch more tedious steps that i don't feel like writing out. The point of the post was basically that on some days tasks feel a lot more tedious than on other days and I want to find the post bc i feel like there was something else important in it but i can't remember what it is and i can't remember who posted it so if you or one of ur followers knows that would be great thanks. Also i don't even remember if the example in the post was actually abt coffee or if that's just something i made up so if you find a similar post that has nothing to do with coffee it might still be what i'm looking for lmao.
Oh I love this!
Anyone know the post anon is talking about?
In which I am both of them
i absolutely set people up to infodump at me, it's one of my absolute favourite ways to learn things! you mean i get to LEARN NEW STUFF from a FRIEND who is INCANDESCENT OVER SHARING? sign me up FOREVER.
This is everything.
Often I feel uncomfortable that I talk so much and I spend a lot of time feeling weird or different for the outlandish topics I get into.
Finding people who not only accept you but love your quirks is where it’s at folks.
They’re out there, I promise.
some people were asking for a actual and i can never pass up an opportunity to procrastinate so here’s just a couple of things i always need to remind myself of…now back to my paper :(
This is the ADHD turn-around glow-up we needed this year.
